14 september 2025 to 14 september 2026

one year, mapped

A stranger sent you research material on a Sunday afternoon. This is everything that happened because you replied.

365 days since you said Ouch.
reva mun2:43 pm, legal docshere

scroll. the line draws itself, like everything else did.

the day itself

It was not cinematic. It was a chair who had kicked your POO out the window trying to make up for it with jus ad bellum, and then getting carried away for nine hours. Here is the evening, in your words and mine.

LEGAL DOCS
Clausula rebus sic stantibus, Jus ad bellum, Jus in bello, Opinio juris...
Ouch.
HAHA yes, it's quite a bit.
GO GET THAT BD
Nawhh. I dont think so... Not confident...
Just walk in like you know everything. And walk out with a prize. That's literally MUN's
What do i get if I get a bd? I need some form of bribery to keep my motivation alive
BOOK OF YOUR CHOICE
Lets see how much u could actually crack me
I was thinking who this is, then recalled that u were the guy who literally kicked my POO out the window and did not let alby accept my working papers
Yeah, I had to make up for it.
Im gonna guilt trip u till eternity
Ok u r gonna start hating me after wt i am about to tell u. I dont like cats.
WHAT. THE HELL. That should be a crime.
My fav fav fav favvvv animal is just one. Guess. Its elegant. Tall. Slim. Handsome. And beautiful
Horses? Ponies?
Yesssss
I'M SO GOOD AT THIS.
i have a dream. biggest and most important. its imp, its bound to happen, but still very unpredictable. life changing
I've only known you for a day, you'd have to accomodate hints 😭
u've known me enough. for a day
Marriage and a good family????
yes! i played u so well. i loved every second
Peer e Kamil? AND I WANNA READ IT SO BAD NOW.
Can you lend Peer e Kamil?
sure!
I GOT 5/5
after all this convo, tell me how do u look at arfa?
Very interesting and intriguing for sure. I'd love to know you better. And I really think, you'll get there one day, with everything.
BUT ALSO. Arfa doesn't know how to give hints 😬 And Arfa should start liking cats.

Every message above is real, timestamps included. I stand by 11:56 pm. I would add a few things now.

the route

Twenty nine stops. Not every one of them was a good day. All of them are on the map because they got us here.

  1. a stranger says hello, with attachments

    We had never spoken. You were a delegate at Reva, I was the chair who didn't accept your additional documents because I was sleepy and wanted to go home. I went back to that committee, found the piece of paper with your name on it, and sent an Instagram request. When you accepted I panicked and sent you every MUN note on my phone.

    By midnight I knew your favourite animal, your three colours, the hobby you want most, your biggest dream, and your number one book. You knew that I like watches, F1, and yapping.

  2. a spotify blend

    Day two. I needed to know what a person who watches Turkish dramas listens to. You said you'd make me a playlist of all your favourites. Five days later you sent three.

  3. assault rifle fully automatic

    I made us a shared playlist and named it after you. A week later you called me Admiral Boss of Belly Ache Sessions. We have been even since.

  4. echo mun

    UNHRC, with a fever, on a day I was stuck chairing MCCMUN and couldn't help. No BD. I said you were a winner in my eyes and I was not being nice, I meant it. The book bet is technically still open.

  5. two weeks

    I've known you for two weeks now, but I definitely know more than what two weeks should've taught me.
    what is it that two weeks taught you
    how u would make an add doc. exactly like that
    I'll be honest. I think you're interesting.

    Same night I told you the worst case scenario of the whole thing would have been you not replying to my first message. You said I was making it a BIG thing. I was.

  6. the apology email

    You made me write one, to your fifth grade email address with xrfx in it, with a twenty minute deadline. I had to dry my hair in between. Verdict: "yea, wasn't great, but its fine, its ur first, so accepted!" I've been trying to top it ever since. This is attempt number three.

  7. the only quiet stretch

    Six days in the entire year without a single message between us. All of them in October. I had a fever that turned into a hospital, you had your own emergency and your midterms. Somewhere in there you texted that you were slowly starting to worry. That was the first time I thought, oh.

    Since 31 October 2025 we have not skipped a day. 318 and counting.

  8. the beard

    Ukw, when I saw u at reva. Very stupid, but i just noticed ur beard😭
    Thats when something clicked, and I knew for a fact, we'll have a story
    WOW, you did? 😭

    You also said you'd never have messaged first, and that we'd have met at a different conference anyway. I took my chances. I would take them again.

  9. the date that didn't happen

    Forum Rex Walk. I was there, you were almost there, and then your parents were there instead. I gave you instructions on the phone and you said it felt like you had committed a crime and I was your lawyer asking you not to give in. We rescheduled by exactly two weeks.

  10. we finally met

    I was nervous, I almost forgot English😭 U are intimidating, try being less formal next time🔪
    IF I WEREN'T NERVOUS, I WOULD'VE FED YOU
    That sentence i said, in beary. That literally meant "u look good today". I was shy to translate it
    I think the food wasnt enough for you.. I am soo sorry 😭
    Shut up. You were enough

    I was in uniform, without a haircut, wearing a mask of not being nervous so you wouldn't leave. You didn't eat. I got an auto home and texted you the whole way.

  11. too soon

    I slipped an "Ilyy" into a goodnight. You said, firstly it's not "ily", secondly don't say it like that, and so soon. Say it when it's right. So I waited. Badly, and out loud, but I waited.

  12. my best bet

    You're my best bet, I've never felt anything like it before. I'm comfortable around you, I've never been that with anyone else before.

    me, at midnight, three days after being jealous about a guy who wanted your attention. I stand by the quote and not the jealousy.

  13. the add doc

    Additional Document, Kingdom of Belgium, UNODC, Arfa Zainab. Sixteen pages. Written by the chair who once refused yours. The guilt trip you promised to run till eternity was settled out of court.

  14. peer e kamil

    You lent it. I read it. You were right, nothing goes above it. I paused during Ramadan because I felt guilty reading it, which tells you something about the book and something about me.

  15. our loudest day

    3,023 messages in twenty four hours, our record. I checked what they were about. It was nothing. It was also, somehow, everything. That is the whole year in one day.

  16. leslie's

    You claim you don't remember the date. It was the 25th. I'm putting it on the map so you can't lose it again.

  17. you said it

    I love you
    I do..
    But please give me time...to completely settle with this feeling, and this relationship

    You said it when it was right, like you said you would in December. It was worth every badly hidden minute of waiting.

  18. twenty

    A website with a sealed letter, a password that was a Sunday in September, a song, and an Airbnb two minutes from your college so your friends could come after. You said the song brought the website to life. This is the sequel. Nobody else is getting one.

    Arfa holding a small white cake under a tree
    you, a cake, a tree. the pinned chat since forever.

  19. the dua

    May Allah write us in each other's naseeb forever and the life after. This is the most important decision of our lives, and it should be the start to something very blessed.

    still the plan. December, Inshallah.

  20. the quiet month

    5,896 messages, our lowest. Wedding work on my side, exams on yours, and a couple of fights we can leave off the map. Not one day without a text, though. I also found a store called Arfa Boutique and nearly walked in to ask for you.

  21. three quiet days

    So here's my promise, simple and true, I'll choose to talk, I'll choose you. No more ghosting, that's the end, I'd rather be your fool than a ghost again.

    a poem I wrote you at 2:46 am after going quiet for three days. it is not good poetry. it is a good promise.

  22. the chain

    You said you'd have preferred a different college. I mapped out for you exactly what that would have cost.

    • kristu jayanti
      • →
    • debsoc
      • →
    • muns
      • →
    • reva
      • →
    • that committee
      • →
    • a piece of paper with your name
      • →
    • an instagram request
      • →
    • this

    "You're really telling me that you're okay with that?" You were not.

  23. red, white, green

    Arfa in a red hijab and black abaya Arfa in a soft pink hijab Arfa in a deep green hijab, in profile
    your three colours, in the order you gave them to me on day one. white, then red because Turkey, then green. I was told I'm so good at this.

  24. aicon iii

    AICON III edition poster naming Arfa Zainab as UNSC Rapporteur Arfa at a committee table with her nameplate
    UNSC Rapporteur. Operation Polo. From "I want to chair at least once" to the Executive Board in eleven months.

  25. nvnmun

    Day one, 4:44 pm: "You can maybe start with a Moderator position." You: "Dont ask... recommending me is fine, not asking them to actually take me in." Nobody asked. You earned it.

    NVNMUN badge: Arfa Zainab, UNHRC Moderator Abbas giving the Secretary General address at the NVNMUN podium
    UNHRC Moderator, and the guy giving the SG address in the same building. I told everyone I was dating the UNHRC moderator. Everyone was you.

  26. one year, almost

    We've known each other for about a year, and this is the best year of my life, without exaggerating. Only because of you, Arfa.

    I checked the exaggeration. There is none.

  27. a white horse

    Abbas on a white horse standing in a lake Abbas riding a white horse through a field
    tall, slim, handsome and beautiful. the horse. I went at 6:30 am so that I can teach you. I did not fall. "I will buy you a horse" is now in writing.

  28. husband material

    Aleena and Amna invented a genre called the abbas coded reel. Your mom asked you, wallahi, whether I am husband material, then sat in on our startup call and sided with me on every point, then used the words son in law. I'm still recovering. Being intelligent but grounded is a lethal combination, apparently. I'm working on the grounded part.

  29. here

    One year. Same Sunday, one week later. Two lakh forty six thousand messages, one apology email, sixteen pages of additional documents, one white horse, zero cats liked. Lalbagh is still on, Inshallah.

by the numbers

I exported the chat. It is 13.7 megabytes of text. Here is what a year looks like when you count it.

2,46,440messages. 1,37,572 mine, 1,08,868 yours. I talk more. You knew that.
7,55,140words. Roughly nine novels. None of them Peer e Kamil, sadly.
359 of 365days with at least one message. The other six were all in October.
318days in a row, unbroken, since 31 October 2025.
32%of everything was sent after midnight. The busiest hour of our year is 12 am to 1 am.
sundayour loudest day of the week. We started on one.
3,023messages on 5 March 2026, the record. About nothing.
5,251sorrys from me, including the spam you make me type. 435 from you. Justice.
2,142photos, 2,095 stickers, 382 videos, 414 voice notes, 345 reels. 238 of the reels were yours.
84missed voice calls. Mostly me, calling while you were asleep.
meyou
3,394baby805
618i love you209
384bye1,480
533oye0
1,140shut up731
18,544😭8,317
10,472😑5,698
3,887😂10,659
97wallahi6
5stupido28

messages per month

march was the loudest. june was the quietest. september 2026 is thirteen days old and already louder than june.

when we talk

we are a midnight couple with a 7 pm relapse. the 4 am to 8 am silence is the only time you have ever left me alone.

our dictionary

Words that mean something different in this chat than anywhere else.

oye
how I begin 533 conversations. You have used it exactly zero times. It is mine.
shush
the polite shut up. 504 uses, most of them when you compliment me and I need a week to recover.
baba
you, when I'm being gentle or serious. Also what I call kids in my committee, which you have now banned in front of your mother.
babyyyy
the number of y's is the mood. Four is a good day.
stupido
me, according to you, 28 times. Usually correct.
goodboy
what I get after typing sorry a hundred times. 22 awards to date.
😑
my entire personality in one face. 10,472 times. You have started using it back, which is fair.
bye
your favourite word. 1,480 times. You have never once actually left.
say sorry rn
the legal process by which all disputes between us are settled. Appeals are heard in multiples of one hundred.
assault rifle fully automatic
our playlist, named after you. See also: Admiral Boss of Belly Ache Sessions, your revenge.
big woman, old man
27 September 2025. I gave you a compliment and you gave me this.
add doc
the original sin. Settled 29 January 2026 with sixteen pages and the Kingdom of Belgium.
generah conventions
my best joke, about your future brand. You said "and u want a woman with ur humor?" I did, and I found one.
abbas coded reel
a genre, per Aleena and Amna. Growing.
beary president
my next election. Campaign promise: free food at your dad's friend's cafe near Manyata.
1 year over, now go
you, yesterday evening. Application denied.

the guessing game, again

Five questions from the first night, answered with a year of extra information. Tap a card. No hints this time, you never gave good ones anyway.

An orange cat being petted on a bed
not pictured: your approval.

places on the map

The ones we've been to, and the ones we keep saying at 1 am. Not to scale. Obviously.

bengaluru, roughly N reva universityreva mun. we hadn't even spoken. kristu jayantiwhere the chain starts. debsoc. alan. nagarjuna vidyaniketannvnmun. moderator and SG, same day. acharyaaicon iii. rapporteur. manyatayour side. the beary cafe. forum rex walk10 nov. a food court and one of us. leslie's25 march. you know. lalbaghpromised 13 sept 2026. a whole garden. kunigalthe farmland. feb, march, we start building. inshallah.
elsewhere, someday bengaluruhome. pinned chat. mangaloreyour home. brown family things. makkah"bro thats obvio". together. nepalmisa invited us. I said come let's go. morocco"and morocco too." istanbulwe'll go. I said it first. cappadociaif I don't go, I haven't lived. hot air balloons. switzerlandsaid at 1 am. it counts. the netherlandsmasters. tulip fields. "can we shift". inshallah. oxford unionnew life goal. you, front row, awake.
been theregoing, inshallah

on a phone, drag the maps sideways, like a real one. the second map has no land drawn because I have never been able to draw the netherlands from memory. you'll take me.

the letter, unsealed

Asslamu Alaikum baby

Okay listen. It's 12, which means it's officially the 14th, and I've been sitting here thinking about how exactly one year ago I sent a girl I had never actually spoken to my entire jus ad bellum notes at 2:43 in the afternoon. And you replied "Ouch." That's it. That was the big moment. No restaurant, no story you'd want to tell people. Just the chair who kicked your POO out the window trying to make up for it with research material.

I didn't know anything that day. I thought I was hyping some KJU delegate for a BD at Echo and bribing her with a book. I didn't know that Sunday would end at 11:41 pm with me guessing horses and watches and swimming and marriage and a good family, and getting 5/5 on a girl I had known for one day. I still maintain your hints were wrong btw. That stays. I didn't know I'd end up reading Peer e Kamil because of that day, or that "I don't like cats" would be something I'd decide to ignore for the rest of my life.

Around two weeks in I told you I already knew more than two weeks should've taught me, and you asked me to explain it like an add doc. I couldn't then. I think I can now. Somewhere between you texting that you were slowly starting to worry when I was in the hospital, and me sitting in Forum Rex on 10th Nov waiting for someone who didn't show up, and 24th Nov when you forgot English and said something in Beary and were too shy to translate it, I stopped thinking in different timelines. There was only one I wanted anymore.

And the things I love about us are so stupid. That you hate late replies and still didn't block me when I took 8 hours to reply to a VN in September. That you made me write an apology email to your 5th grade xrfx account at 12 am, said it wasn't great, and accepted it anyway because it was my first. That you've been my first and pinned chat for a year. That "Abbas coded reel" is a genre now. That your mom apparently used the words son in law today and I'm still recovering. That you've sat through Roshan hate, constipation updates and a year of sorry spam, and I've still never actually lost it on you. Not once. Wallahi.

But mostly Arfa, I want to say the thing I said in October when it sounded like yapping. The worst case that day was you not replying to my first message. That was the whole risk. And the best case turned out to be this. I didn't know I could feel this comfortable, this understood, this at home with anyone. You never corrected me or polished me, you just let me be this unfiltered idiot and stayed. This has been the best year of my life and I'm not exaggerating, and it started with a Sunday that meant nothing at 2:43 pm and everything by midnight.

Alhamdulillah for Reva, for that placard, for the request that made you go "who is this", and for you.

Happy one year my baby. Lalbagh is still on, Inshallah. I love you more, and I'll always love you more.

Goodnight meri jaan. Asslamu Alaikum.